My two best friends started dating

I'm torn between my own desire for lasting relationship bliss and my desire to preserve the most important friendship in my life. —Something Has to Give Submit Your Own Question to a Therapist Your friend is going to be hurt. When you made the choice to start hanging out with your best friend’s ex without telling her, that’s when you made the decision to hide your actions, and possibly your feelings, from her.

On some level you must have known that she would be bothered by it, and you chose not to tell her.

The situation was never as hopeless as I made it out to be in my late night journal entries.

So I decided to make a guide for myself, and other people out there like me, on how not to feel like a third wheel friend.

The only thing worse than being a third wheel to your friends who are in a relationship is being a third wheel to two best friends — which seems to happen a lot.

Just to encourage you to think about why this fills you with dread rather than it being a cause for celebration?

I wish I could tell you otherwise, but I think you already know this. You feel this man could be the love of your life, and you’ve chosen to begin a relationship with him.

I think what you are looking for is a way to share this with your friend without losing her friendship. I think you are also hoping to alleviate some guilt you may be feeling about hurting someone you care deeply about.

But I never told my bestie that we were spending time together, let alone that we were growing close.

My best friend and I have been besties since the fourth grade. She was with this guy for four years, up until early May of this year, when he suddenly decided to break up with her. I started hanging out with him about two weeks later, at first thinking I was just being someone to talk to.

My two best friends started dating